I was watching a video about a guy who was talking about how he and his deaf friend watch movies together. His friend needs the captions on, but he, personally, has ADHD and can't make himself NOT focus on the captions, which often ruins scenes for him because he is reading instead of watching. It makes the movies difficult for him, but he said it was okay because he wanted to spend time with his friend and he wanted his friend to enjoy the movie. Also, while he can function and watch the movie with just a little inconvenience, his friend couldn't understand the movie at all without the captions.
A lot of the time, people with physical/mental/whathaveyou needs are drawn to each other. Often it's because this is where they can find the most acceptance. However, within these friendships, conflict can happen due to how needs play out, as in the given situation above.
I think it's important for us (yes, I include me), to always be mindful of the needs of those around us. If you're the person who can maybe give a little in the given situation, you should do so. I mean, don't let people take advantage of you, but keep in mind that sometimes one need is greater than the other.
Also, as the person I talked about above did, think about what is most important to you. In his case, it was enjoying the movies with his friend. Let what is most important motivate you. It will make you more proactive in the situation and less resentful of whatever inconveniences you have to experience.
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