And by the way, when we laugh at ourselves, we're also laughing at you.

I was reading this article today, thinking my usual deep thought of snark about it. . . . until I got pissed off.  Mind you, that wasn't over the topic.  Honestly, I'm rather happy the Fat, Ugly, or Slutty site exists, because it places the due humor on the issue.

For anyone who is thinking, tl;dr about the links, the basic idea is that Fat, Ugly, or Slutty chronicles the various asinine insults that male gamers send to female gamers on livechats.  Mind you, trash talk is always a part of these things, but it seems when the menz realize a OMGchick! is in their game, they get really threatened and, instead of the usual insults, begin a line of misogyny. The folks at FUS think this is funny, and set up the site so people could post the various things sent to them and everyone can laugh at them.

The point being, one of the backlashes of Feminism has been this intense line of verbal attacks from men who feel threatened when women begin to walk into what they see as their territory (as opposed to the olden days when usually women just experienced verbal attacks from men they were married to/related to). And while this worked for a while, it seems lately women have more or less started blowing the whole thing off or laughing at it because it's just so stupid.

There is only so many times someone can tell you to get into the kitchen and make them a sandwich before you just laugh at it. Now I always here them in Cartman's voice.

As for the "fat and ugly" insults.  Ehh, I know I'm fat. I know you assume I'm ugly. Usually women are only deeply devastated by said insults if they place their self-worth in their beauty/thinness, which they usually ONLY do if they were told how "pretty/skinny" they were as kids....and if they were told this, they probably really ARE this which means the insults are untrue. For the rest of us, we tend to place self worth in other things. Mine tends to be in my ability to be a smartass.

Oh, but back to the part where I got mad.  Yeah. The one thing that did piss me off about this whole article was one of the comments when someone suggested we "toughen the fuck up."

I take issue with that because since when was humor not a way of toughing up?  Honestly, it is most people's method of toughing up.  The website isn't there so everyone can cry. It's not there so everyone can be outraged because what has been said (though, often people are rather shocked at the vitriol displayed in the comments), it is there so people can laugh at them.  People are owning these comments and making their own bits of sarcasm back.  They are making light of them and reducing them to what they really are . . . petty statements made by petty people.  To me, that IS being tough.