Looser Laments

There are reports coming out about another school shooting. This one was stopped before it could happen. It seems the boy in question was angry because cheerleaders wouldn't send him nudes. He was going to kill as many girls as he could because cheerleaders were wise enough not to risk putting nude pictures of themselves online for him. I know he's only fifteen, but fuck him.

I keep reading about all of these little loser boy shooters and people stating how society has failed them. They are angry because they don't have friends. They are angry because they don't have girlfriends. They are angry because they don't feel respected or masculine enough or something.

I always find it interesting that women get treated like women and girls, all the while wishing they could be treated as neutral humans. Men get treated as neutral humans and become angry when they're not treated like men. Trust me, fellas, having your gender be the first thing someone reacts to isn't all that great.

As for thinking society failed you, stop that shit. Society didn't fail you. Society owes you nothing. Each of us is dealt a hand of cards when we're born. We play them or we don't. People try to stigmatize some of those cards (the race card, the woman card, etc), but that's only because they don't want said cards coming into play. Use what you have. If it doesn't work, figure out what you can change and change that.

And yes, I know if one of these potential shooters reads this post, he would say that he can change things by killing people. And yes, he certainly can alter aspects of people's lives. However, he would not be changing the overall issue.

Shooting up schools isn't going to make people like people like you more. It isn't going to get you any respect. It isn't going to make girls want to be near you. If anything, it's going to make people less likely to befriend the odd looking fellows. It's going to make women draw closer to the typical and normal looking men. It's going to put more watchful eyes on you. No one wants that.

And before you think it's what I would want, I don't. I was never at the cool kids' table. I never could have been. Instead, I decided their values weren't for me and declared my own  table to be cool. Delusional? Maybe. But you'll notice the freaks among us now have a certain charm that others aspire to. Are we still mocked by the Susans and Chads of the world? Yeah, but who cares? They have their paths, we have ours.

If you're not happy, find something that will make you happy. Stop dwelling on  the stuff that may never happen for you. It doesn't happen for a lot of people. But there are a lot of other things out there to explore.